Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Aug 8, 2012

Letter Openers

How many people today still use a letter opener (a.k.a. paper knife), when dealing with their mail? I know that I always have, and always will. Why? Couple of quick points:
  1. Less paper cuts
  2. Less fluffy paper flaps to clog up your bill filing folder
  3. It just looks good
  4. The concept of "slicing something open" makes you feel better than dreaming about what you want to do to your co-workers or teammates
  5. You can flip it through your fingers when you are bored (like a drum stick)
"Back in my day," the late 1980s, my grandfather gave me a letter opener that he had used at Dehn Optical for over 30 years. That is the only high school graduation present that I still have and still use.  He handed it to me in the back stock room of his storeroom and said "use this for all of the letters you get, it will keep you on the straight and true." You know what? It has, and still brings him to mind every time I slit open yet another bill. And it is now over 60 years old...still true to form.

Over the years, I've used other things to open my mail, but his has the most impact on me. But, what else I can recommend:

  • A micro Leatherman
  • A Swiss Army pocketknife
  • A butter knife from your kitchen
  • The small side of a pair of scissors
  • A small butterfly knife
I carry the small butterfly knife for my daily work (opening shipping boxes, dealing with paper mail, etc). BUT, when I sit in my easy chair in the evening to deal with my mail, I always reach for the letter opener.  Just a simple way to keep your life uncluttered... and reminisce about your family.

May 11, 2012

The Last Straw

My other entry about using the tab on a soda can to hold your straw and keep insects out of your drink, made me think about something from my youth. Yeah, from spending time with my grandparents. I spent a lot of time with them in the kitchen, so there were always a lot of "drinks" around. And, the best way to sip them was through a straw. When was the last time you made and enjoyed a Black Cow? Since there were a lot of glasses around, my grandparents had a lot of straws. Usually they were they were the inexpensive plastic ones, but since my grandfather used to work in a bar, he actually had some made of glass. So, I decided to do some research about current "trends" in straws.

To summarize, I'll keep it less technical and more informative. According to what I've read about the history of straws, the first ones were made from paper or reeds found in the local marsh. Things evolved, and they were eventually made from glass and metal. And yes, like you get at any local fast food restaurant, plastic. Did you know that McDonald's give away nearly 52 million plastic straws per day? And they are all thrown away. Not to be remiss, how many packages of plastic straws do YOU buy every week?

Okay, to get on the hippie soapbox and make a statement. Remember that most plastic straws are made from petroleum and then you throw them away after one use. With today's cost of oil, why continue to use a disposable item that increases the draining of the oil fields? And, when they are disposed, they end up in the dump, where they will never truly degrade. Not to mention how many toxins plastic emits (while you are drinking that beverage or when you dispose of it).

Pic from Glass Dharma
I guess I'll just summarize that because of my concern about the Earth (reducing the use of oil and the toxins in the dump) and because I am a fairly retro kind of guy, I'll be ordering some glass straws from the following sites. They come with a cleaning brush and are dishwasher approved (so I'll know they are sterile). And some sites have the different sizes available for different drinks. Yeah, technology progression is a good thing...

Decide where you stand on being more organic...and happy sipping... The following links are to sites that provide you the option of having non-oil/toxic straws. They might not work for the "thread the soda can tab" thought, but they can be decorative, personalized, straight and bent, reusable, a cost savings, and most important - life enjoyable.

Where to get straws:

Apr 17, 2012

Traumatic Brain Injury - Part V - Prevention

Every 16 seconds in the U.S., a person suffers a TBI. This entry is related to how to PREVENT being a statistic. For a traumatic brain injury (TBI), there is no cure, only prevention. What can a person "do" to prevent this? Most things are common sense, but my suggestions focus on falls because they are the biggest cause (see TBI Part II Causes). These suggestions have been collected from various websites and from my own personal experience. Links to all of the other websites appear on the TBI entries I've made (click on the Misc/Brain Dump page above for related posts or the related links at the end of this post).

Falls can occur in nearly ANY part of daily life, and we rarely pay attention to each and every move we make. Here are some common sense things that can help you prevent a fall and possible TBI:
  • Use handrails on stairways and look at the steps when walking 
    • Stop reading the mail or magazine 
    • Look for items that have been left there
  • Provide lighting on stairs for people with poor vision or who have difficulty walking
    • A nightlight at the top or bottom is a good idea at night
  • Sit on safe stools and chairs. 
    • Wobbly chairs collapse, stools tip, throwing you to the floor
  • Do not place obstacles in walking pathways (such as stairs, hallways and traffic patterns)
  • If a cabinet door is open on a cabinet in the kitchen and you drop something on the floor, be careful standing back up or your head may impact against the bottom of the open door
  • Use a mat/rug on bathroom and kitchen floors (near the tub/shower and sinks)
    • Those 2 floors are notorious for getting wet. You do NOT want to slip on one (that is what happened to me). 
    • Trying to get back on your feet isn't easy and you can repeatedly fall, making the injury even worse.
The second largest part of our lives that cause falls, are sports and physical activities. Here are some suggestions focused on them. Most sports (football, baseball, soccer, lacrosse, etc.) have specific requirements for the gear that must be worn to protect the various parts of the body. I am focusing on the points below because they are about helmets, which help prevent TBIs. I'm not here to explain the pros or cons about helmets, simply provide you with some suggestions and information.
  • Always wear a helmet when on a bicycle, motorcycle, scooter, snowmobile, jet-ski
  • State Helmet Laws
    Some Local Helmet Laws
    White states have no known helmet laws

    • Some states have laws about helmets for under 18 age people riding bicycles and this site [link] shows info and has a lot of good links about other issues surrounding helmets. The image to the right is an overview of the states that have known/reported laws.
  • Wear a helmet while skiing, snowboarding, skating and skateboarding
  • Wear a helmet when participating in contact sports
    • Not just in "official" ones, but even during the weekend pick-up games
I mention contact sports in the last bullet because I am a ref for a roller derby league and have been at countless bouts where a skater (or even ref) has been knocked down and hit their head on the floor. Helmets are required to be a competing skater or ref (yes, they sometimes get taken out). Basically what a helmet does in any of the activities mentioned above is PREVENTS a fall from being a severe TBI and reduces it to a mTBI, more commonly known as a concussion.

Overall, use common sense in your daily life and when taking part in any physical activity... your head will thank you.

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Apr 8, 2012

Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) - Part IV - Recovery & Rehab

This entry is an overview of what is involved in recovery and rehab for a TBI victim. Chances are that you know someone that has experienced a TBI. Peppered throughout the information are links to sites that contain more details on each topic.

Obviously the medical team will address any physical injuries that require attention. Something to keep in mind about that though, is that a mild TBI (mTBI) or closed head injury may not be diagnosed until well after all of the physical injuries have been tended to. Refer to the TBI Part III - Types for more info about those.

Before recovery/rehab can occur, there has to be a diagnosis of the type or level of TBI has occurred. The victim may be on life saving medical machines, medicated and the evaluation for brain injury will be hard to determine until the victim is physically stable and conscious. Remember, a TBI is not "visually apparent" because it happens inside the head. This is most apparent in a "closed head injury" (explained in TBI Part II).  As explained on one website [click HERE] there are several steps in the "method" of diagnosis:
  • A detailed neurological examination will bring out evidence of brain injury.
  • Brain imaging with CAT scan, MRI, SPECT and PET scan.
  • Cognitive evaluation by a neuropsychologist with formal neuropsychological testing.
  • Evaluations by physical, occupational and speech therapists help clarify the specific deficits of an individual.
Once a diagnosis has been made, a plan for recovery and rehab can be penciled on paper. Of course it will cover any of the physical injuries, but the "length" of the rest of it depends on the individual victim and the success they achieve. It becomes a thought that "only time will tell." For a concussion or mTBI, the victim is typically discharged within a time span of a few hours up to a day after the injury occurs. For more severe types, they may be held in the hospital until they are physically stable and then transferred to a rehab center that specializes in TBIs. For example, I was in 2 different hospitals 2,100 miles from "home" before I was stable enough to transfer to a rehab center that was closer to my house.

So, the question that comes to mind of the family or friend of a TBI victim, is "OMG, what happens at the rehab center?!?!" I'll summarize what can be found on this website [link]. I'm glad you are reading this, but not to be sarcastic, if you are ever checked into a TBI center, you won't remember this or be aware of it until you recover. This is more for the family and friends of a victim. I've highlighted the key points of what happens after the physical things are tended to and the victim is finally in a true TBI center. I've put my personal observations after.

Understanding Traumatic Brain Injury
Similar to the acute care facility, the TBI patient will be cared for by a team of professionals who specialize in the care of trauma victims. Their goals are to:
  1. Stabilize the medical and rehabilitation issues related to brain injury and the other injuries.
  2. Restore lost functional abilities.
  3. Provide adaptive devices or strategies to enhance functional independence.
  4. Begin to analyze with the family and the patient what changes might be required when the person goes home.
Each day, the patient will participate in therapy. Initially, the patient may require staff assistance for even the most simple activities:  brushing teeth, getting out of bed and eating.  The patient also may require staff for safety because there is a risk of falling, eloping (trying to get out of the hospital to go home) or getting hurt. The patient may be confused and forgetful.

The Rehabilitation Team
The Physiatrist is the team leader in the rehabilitation program. The physiatrist is a physician specializing in physical medicine and rehabilitation. The physiatrist will assess and prescribe the treatment and direct the team.

The Neuropsychologist will assess patient's changes in thinking and behavior. Changes could include:
  • Poor memory, attention, concentration, decision-making
  • Impulsivity, disorientation
  • Language and communication abilities
  • Inability to speak or understand when spoken to
Many patients are unaware of the changes in the brain and how those changes affect their daily lives.  A patient may not understand what has happened and may be distraught by being away from home.

The Rehabilitation Nurse assists patients with brain injury and chronic illness in attaining maximum optimal health, and adapting to an altered lifestyle. The focus of nursing care is on:
  • Sleep pattern disturbance
  • Impaired verbal communication and comprehension 
The Physical Therapist job is to minimize or overcome paralyzing effects related to the brain injury. PTs will assess:
  • Balance, posture, strength
  • Increased sensation of sensory-motor activities
  • Pain management
The Occupational Therapist assesses functions and potential complications related to the movement of upper extremities, daily living skills, cognition, vision and perception. OTS  help determine the best ways to perform daily living skills including showering, dressing and personal hygiene. The OT also will look at skills to prepare the patient for a return to the home. These skills include:
  • Cooking, grocery shopping
  • Banking, budgeting
  • Readiness for returning to work by assessing prevocational and vocational skills
Now a personal explanation of being released and being allowed to return "home." The victim of a TBI will only be released from the rehab center once they can demonstrate that they are capable of performing all of the above (and more). They will also have to schedule the follow up assessments, to make sure they are progressing down the path of life, and not experiencing a "relapse." It takes months to "recover" from a severe TBI, but years to "rehab."

Personal Observations
You have to go through physical therapy for a few reasons. Your muscles may be weak from being immobile. Second point is because of how your brain is "misfiring." Physical therapy is to get your muscles active again, but also because the damage to your brain means that it doesn't send the signals to the muscles to be active. You will walk A LOT, perform hand/arm/leg exercises, etc. I studied tai chi, qi gong, do yoga, walk my dog about 20 miles per day, and became  a roller derby ref. I stay very active.
Another thing not discussed openly is trying to "elope" or "get away" from where they are. When you become conscious again, and don't know where you are or why you are there, the survival instinct kicks in. You want to "flee." But know, the TBI victim may be restrained to prevent it. It stops more injuries from occurring until the person is able to safely conduct a "normal" demonstration of getting through the day. A lot of TBI victims may spend some time cuffed or strapped to their bed to prevent them from trying to get away until they are conscious enough to understand that they shouldn't.
Another point is related to rehab exercises to regain the ability to communicate. They will track your ability to communicate, but the don't really provide therapy to assist. You have to do it on your own. I suggest playing cards, doing crossword puzzles, sudoku, word finds, read the newspaper, etc. Just letting a TBI victim watch TV or listen to the radio doesn't do it because it doesn't challenge the brain.
I highlighted the rest of the points just to give you a summary of what a TBI victim will be analyzed on before they are "released" to go home. What isn't really "discussed," is what your restrictions will be when released. You may not be allowed to drive, go up the stairs, use hand tools, be alone in the bathroom, go anywhere unsupervised, cook, clean, etc. It all depends on what level of success you have at the rehab center and at follow up appointments, before they begin to remove your restrictions..
Another thing not mentioned in rehab is how some other things in your body may change. They will tell you that your sleep patterns may change (you may need less or more), but they don't tell you that your metabolism and hormone levels may also change. The only way they mention the hormone changes is to say that "you will be more impulsive and/or uninhibited in your expressions of your feelings." Yeah, sorry to say, but THAT affects everyone around you. Same with metabolism. You may need MORE or even maybe LESS meals.


I could probably write a novel about my personal experience and observations, but I just wanted to provide some overviews about traumatic brain injuries and concussions so more people would begin to learn more about them. There are 1.5 million cases every year... that's a LOT. And those are only the counts of the victims that are checked into a hospital. If you receive a concussion, go to the ER, and are released shortly after, you don't count because it isn't reported. So, ask yourself, how many concussions occur that aren't counted in the stats? Hmmm... makes you wonder... Just be careful out there...

Related Links:
 

Apr 4, 2012

Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) - Part III - Types

While this [link] explains the "effects" of a TBI, I feel that it better explains the 2 types (mild & severe) of a TBI, which is why I'm summarizing it and providing some personal observations after that. Yeah, this entry is going to be LONGER than normal because this is what needs to be most understood about TBIs.

Most are unaware of the range of a TBI or its overwhelming nature. TBI is common, and will be overlooked initially when the medical team is focused on saving the person's life. TBIs can be categorized into 2 levels: mild and severe. Let's talk a little about them. For more information, click on the links above.

Understanding Traumatic Brain Injury
A TBI is classified as mild if loss of consciousness, confusion and disorientation is shorter than 30 minutes. The victim may experience headaches, difficulty thinking, memory problems, attention deficits, mood swings and frustration. Even though this type of TBI is called "mild", the effect on the family and the injured person can be devastating. Unfortunately, the family and friends may be the recipients of the frustration of the victim, but they don't realize "why" they are. And, the victim doesn't realize that they are venting on them.

The most common mTBI is a concussion. Even though most sports require pads and helmets, it still occurs. Wearing a helmet helps prevent 60% of mTBIs, but they can still occur. I'll discuss more about helmets in the prevention entry. A key point to understand about a concussion is that the effects can last up to a year or more after the injury.

Common Symptoms of Mild TBI (mTBI):
  • Fatigue, sleep disturbances, memory loss, dizziness/loss of balance 
  • Irritability-emotional disturbances, depression
Other Symptoms Associated with Mild TBI (mTBI):
  • Nausea, loss of smell, sensitivity to light and sounds
  • Mood changes
  • Slowness in thinking
These symptoms may be delayed days or weeks before they show up.  They are subtle & often missed by the injured person, family and doctors. The victim "appears" normal. Family and friends notice changes in behavior before the injured person realizes there "is" an issue.

Observations
Frustration at school, work or when performing daily tasks occur. Trust me, I know... I've gone through this and continue to work through it. Unfortunately, it affects those around me too, and I'm not always aware of that until they point it out to me.

Understanding Traumatic Brain Injury
TBIs result in permanent neurobiological damage that can produce lifelong deficits to varying degrees. Severe brain injury is associated with loss of consciousness for more than 30 minutes and memory loss after the injury longer than 24 hours. Survivors may have limited function of arms or legs, abnormal speech or language, loss of thinking ability or emotional problems.

The impact of a moderate to severe brain injury can include difficulties with attention, concentration, being distracted easily and impulsive responses. Other key effects of a severe TBI are:

Speech and Language
  • difficulty speaking and being understood
  • slurred speech
  • speaking very fast or very slow
  • problems reading or writing
Sensory
  • blurred vision, problems judging distance
  • decrease or loss of hearing, ringing in the ears (tinnitus)
  • loss or diminished sense of smell
Social-Emotional
  • Lack of motivation, irritability, aggression
  • Depression
  • Denial/lack of awareness
Observations
Another key thing not mentioned on most websites about TBIs is prosopagnasia (commonly called "facial blindness"). This is when a victim cannot recognize someone just by looking at their face. I know I suffer from this because I once spent an half an hour visually "searching" for a family member that had been standing 20 feet away from me the whole time, but I didn't recognize them. Yeah, this will probably be another blog entry.
The abnormal speech & slurred speech occur more often when the victim is tired or stressed. I have had several people approach me and ask me if I was drunk because my speech was slow, slurred, and not easy to understand. No, I hadn't been drinking, but the connections between the brain and the voice are stressed more, so it "sounds" like that I am.
When in a tired, stressed, anxious, or distracted environment, I have been overly impulsive (verbally) to things. A victim can lose their mental "filters" and end up saying or doing things they wouldn't "normally" have done before. It is because the connections between emotions and expression are stressed more than normal, and the person is not performing a mind check before they utter or do something. And when they DO utter them, they probably sound "drunk."
Sometimes there is a disconnect in the brain of a victim because they "know up here" what they are trying to communicate, but the signal never makes it to the tongue. There are times that I know what I am thinking, but the actual words don't come out of my mouth, and that leads to frustration when you have to ask someone what the word is for something as simple as a "doorbell," or "remote control." It leads to more frustration, but also personal embarrassment, which typically leads to even more emotional feelings related to self-esteem.
Sometimes the victim has more of a ROM drive brain but not a RAM drive brain (this is related to memory). I can tell you about things I cooked over a camp fire 2 decades ago, but I can't remember if I had breakfast this morning. Sometimes I wish I could use a PC code of "C:\del *.*" on my brain and just start over.

Part IV will be about recovery & rehab.

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Apr 1, 2012

A Lifetime of Using Polka Dot Casserole as a Guide

The following is a recipe from the 1970s for Polka Dot Macaroni & Cheese Casserole. By keeping a copy of this and listening to my Grandmother's advice that "recipes are a GUIDELINE and raid your pantry to use what you have," I've also given you a list of my other recipes & suggestions based on this.

Polka Dot Macaroni & Cheese Casserole (original)
    Polka Dot Macaroni & Cheese Casserole
  • 7 oz. macaroni (cooked & drained)
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • 1 tsp. Worcestershire sauce
  • 11 oz cheddar cheese soup (1 can)
  • 2 hot dogs, cut into penny thin slices
  1. Heat oven to 375 F
  2. Spread macaroni in oblong baking dish (10 x 16 x 1 1/2")
  3. Blend milk & Worcestershire sauce with soup in a bowl
  4. Pour over macaroni, stirring to mix well
  5. Arrange hot dog slices on top of macaroni & cheese
  6. Bake 25 mins or until mixture is hot and bubbly
Recent Recipe Modifications
Suggestions
I recommend using the toaster oven because:
  • I'm cooking for myself & the other few "dinner guests" that are here
  • They still all serve 4-6, depending on how you cut it
  • There are STILL leftovers
  • My entry about living in an apartment but trying to cut utility costs (click HERE to read it)
I use an 8x6x2 Pyres casserole dish, because it fits into my toaster oven
Oil or grease the casserole dish before you pour the mixture
My recipes above save cost at the grocery store because you make it more from scratch
There are less "preservatives" and "additives" in my recipes than a boxed meal

Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) - Part II - Causes




pie chart of causes of traumatic brain injury
(Photo credit: Wikipedia)
As I mentioned in my TBI - Part I entry, this second part is about what can cause a traumatic brain injury. First, some facts. Followed by personal observations.

The graph to the right (based on a CDC report) shows that the top 3 causes of a TBI are from car accidents, falls, and struck by/against. According to the CDC (United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention), there are approximately 1.5 million people in the U.S. who suffer from a traumatic brain injury each year.  50,000 people die from TBI and 85,000 people suffer long term disabilities.

This is higher than the combined incidence of Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, and multiple sclerosis.

Brain injuries occur more often than breast cancer or AIDS. One out of every fifty Americans is currently living with disabilities from TBI.


The following information (from HERE), explains the "mechanisms" of the top 2 causes of TBIs. I'm only covering the top 2 because they are the most prevalent. I've highlighted the key points and my personal observations appear below that.
Mechanisms of Injury
These mechanisms are the highest causes of brain injury: Open head Injury, Closed Head Injury, Deceleration Injuries, Chemical/Toxic, Hypoxia, Tumors, Infections and Stroke.
1. Open Head Injury
  • Results from bullet wounds, etc.
  • Largely focal damage
  • Penetration of the skull
  • Effects can be just as serious as closed brain injury
2. Closed Head Injury
  • Resulting from a slip and fall, motor vehicle crashes, etc.
  • Focal damage and diffuse damage to axons
  • Effects tend to be broad (diffuse)
  • No penetration to the skull
Personal Observations:
Some things that aren't mentioned above that were my personal observations about TBIs:
It make sense why "falls" and "traffic accidents" cause TBIs, because the head is prone to striking something hard. What came to mind about the "struck by/against" was mentioned in my TBI Part I entry, that a friend's nephew was playing lacrosse when it happened.
My TBI was in the "falls" category. I was at a work conference and stepped out of the shower because I left my shampoo on the counter. I fell on the wet tile floor... repeatedly... According to the doctors, 6-8 times. My recommendation is to always be safe in the bathroom.
A side thought & some reading on websites confirms that a TBI is part of the Shaken Baby Syndrome. Think about it...when shaking a baby, their brain is bouncing around in there and it kills brain cells when that happens. My recommendation is to not do it.

Related Links:

Mar 31, 2012

Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) - Part I

Recently a friend told me that the nephew of a friend suffered a traumatic brain injury (TBI) while playing lacrosse. It made me cringe a lot, not because of the sport being played, but because I've also suffered a TBI. Hence, a series of blog entries related to a traumatic brain injury (TBI), one of the most misunderstood injuries in North America.

As a technical writer, I will keep things factual but I would be remiss to not include some personal observations about my experience. Bear with me... One of the best websites that explains a TBI in a little more detail than I am going to do, is the Traumatic Brain Injury site.

So, the point of this entry is to explain "what" a TBI is. Future entries will cover causes, types, effects, and recovery/rehab. Rather than reinvent the wheel, this is what the above site & links below explain. I have highlighted some key points, and added my comments after the definition:
Understanding Traumatic Brain Injury

     Traumatic brain injury, often referred to as TBI, is most often an acute event similar to other injuries. That is where the similarity between traumatic brain injury and other injuries ends. One moment the person is normal and the next moment life has abruptly changed.
     In most other aspects, a traumatic brain injury is very different. Since our brain defines who we are, the consequences of a brain injury can affect all aspects of our lives, including our personality. A brain injury is different from a broken limb or punctured lung. An injury in these areas limit the use of a specific part of your body, but your personality and mental abilities remain unchanged. Most often, these body structures heal and regain their previous function.
     Brain injuries do not heal like other injuries. Recovery is a functional recovery, based on mechanisms that remain uncertain. No two brain injuries are alike and the consequence of two similar injuries may be very different. Symptoms may appear right away or may not be present for days or weeks after the injury.
     One of the consequences of brain injury is that the person often does not realize that a brain injury has occurred.
DEFINITION:
There are several ways to describe brain injuries.  The brain is enclosed in the bony vault of the skull.  The cerebrospinal fluid surrounds the brain and, most of the time, protects it from impact with the skull.  If there is a rapid force applied to the skull or rapid deceleration of the head, the brain may strike the inside of the bony vault.
Brain tissue may stretch or tear because of the rapid movement.  This can injure the nervous tissue of the brain directly.
Personal Observations:
Some things that aren't mentioned above that were my personal observations about TBIs:
You can't "SEE" a TBI when it occurs inside the head. There aren't any scars (other than how it was caused or hospital equipments used). For some TBI injuries (like mine), there are no visible scars related to it.
A TBI will not only affect the victim, but their family, friends, significant others, employers / employees. They have to adapt to the changes that you've gone through, and be supportive during your recovery/rehab. BUT, you need to ready to accept that the TBI has changed THEIR life too.
The victim of the TBI will not realize it happened when it did. In my occurrence, I didn't know I had a TBI until several weeks after it happened. Why so long? I had to come out of my coma and begin to recover enough to understand what all of those people standing around my hospital bed were even talking about.

Related Links:

Mar 28, 2012

Ties - A Dying Tradition

While they aren't as popular today as they used to be, I still feel that every man needs to know how to tie a tie. Face it, a man should wear a tie to a wedding, funeral, science fair, interview, and just because you should "dress for the job you want, not the one that you have." I was honored to learn it from my grandfather and recently had to pass that knowledge on to someone "in the next generation." LOL... yeah, that was an experience that I'll always have in my mind.

It wasn't until recently that I learned the "name" of the knot my grandfather taught me, as this website explains. It was the "Half Windsor Knot." Because of the Tie-a-Tie website, I've learned how many other ways that I can make my silk tie look good. But, I am now going to share with you a video that explains how to do it.



Yeah, I have to comment on my opinions about ties.  A key one is to AVOID the clip-on ones. Just take a little time to learn something in life, don't just take the path of least resistance.  This will serve you more later in life. I learned to tie a bow tie for my prom instead of just clipping it on. Some events in your life will always be in your mind if you PERSONALIZE them. Make them a memory, not just an action. I've also written a blog entry about How to Travel and Store A Tie.

Anyway... refer to the links above about ties, join me as a member, and check out the Art of Manliness link to the right as a reference about how to impress your date...

Mar 21, 2012

St. Patrick's Day Poem

St. Patrick's Day 2012 is a few days past us, but I would be remiss to not share a poem I came across on another website about the myths about that holiday [link] related to my Corned Beef & St. Patrick's Day post. Below is a poem written by Frances Shilliday that summarizes my entry. Frances was kind enough to grant me permission to publish it on my blog (yeah, I asked permission because as a writer, I can't morally cut & paste to plagiarize someone).


GOOD GRIEF - NOT BEEF!
 

I just want to put something straight
About what should be on your plate,
If it's corned beef you're makin'
You're sadly mistaken,
That isn't what Irishmen ate.

If you ever go over the pond
You'll find it's of bacon they're fond,
All crispy and fried,
With some cabbage beside,
And a big scoop of praties beyond.

Your average Pat was a peasant
Who could not afford beef or pheasant.
On the end of his fork
Was a bit of salt pork,
As a change from potatoes 'twas pleasant.
This custom the Yanks have invented,
Is an error they've never repented,
But bacon's the stuff
That all Irishmen scoff,
With fried cabbage it is supplemented.

So please get it right this St. Paddy's.
Don't feed this old beef to your daddies.
It may be much flasher,
But a simple old rasher,
Is what you should eat with your tatties.


Jan 30, 2012

How to Store and Travel with a Tie

9 of my 17 ties

I love wearing ties. I have over 17 in my collection now. I learned to appreciate ties by listening to my grandfather, and what he told me was to "store them on a hanger from the dry cleaner (pic at the right) and NOT on a shirt hanger or tie rack, as they will crease your tie in the middle." So, that is how I always have done it. On a hanger from the dry cleaner that has a cardboard tube, 4 per hanger to keep them balanced, and in the closet between a few pairs of pants. But times do change, so should I.

Not only do I love wearing ties, but I worked for a company where I had to travel, and always faced the conundrum of how to pack them in my suitcase without having to iron/press them when I got to my destination. I came across some info for storing and traveling with my ties. It will help me in living in an apartment with limited storage options and assist in packing my suitcase for travel. The best site I came across regarding can be found by clicking HERE. But, since this site was very limited in sharing information, I'm going to share some of my own tips to help you insure success.
Items needed

Items Needed:
  • 1 Tie
  • 1 Toilet Paper Roll (empty of the paper of course)
  • 1 quart plastic bag (sandwich or Ziploc)
  • 1 shoebox (for storing the ties, not pictured)

Recommended Procedures:
  • Use a long table or counter space to roll the tie
  • Start from the LARGE end of the tie, not the small (as shown)
    • Roll from the other end
    • The reduces the wrinkles in the most visible part of the tie
    • Do not fold the tie in half and roll that way, roll the entire length of the tie to reduce creases or wrinkles
  • Roll the tie tightly against the roll
  • Insert into the bag and seal it
  • Place all of your rolled ties into a shoebox for storage in an apartment (not shown)

Personal Tips:
You can fit 6-8 ties in a shoebox in the closet.
When traveling, take as few ties as possible. Pack them in your suitcase surrounded by rolled socks.
Be prepared to use an iron set to "steam" to remove the creases & wrinkles. They do age like we do...

Hmmmm.....I wonder if this will work well for my Italian silk suspenders too....

Jan 12, 2012

Ditto Casserole

I called it Ditto Casserole, because it was due to combining some other casserole recipes on my blog, all into one. But, I would have to say that this was the most tasty one yet. I probably "over wrote" the instructions, but it is easier than it reads...


Ingredients:
  • 1 15oz. black beans
  • 1 cup elbow macaroni pasta
  • 1 can salt-free tomato sauce
  • Old Bay Seasoning to taste
  • 2 hot dogs
  • 1 1/2 cups shredded taco mix cheese
 Directions:
  1. Simmer the beans (undrained) while you boil the water for the pasta
  2. Prepare the elbow macaroni pasta according to the package instructions
  3. While that is going on, chop up the 2 hot dogs (cut in half lengthwise twice, then chop)
  4. Preheat the toaster oven to 400 F
  5. When the pasta is done, rinse and drain
  6. Pour the tomato sauce into the 2 quart saucepan from the pasta
  7. Return the pasta to that pot, and drain/rinse the beans & return that to the pasta pan
  8. Stir well, sprinkling Old Bay (or the spice of your choice) over it while stirring
  9. Add chopped hot dogs, and stir well again, adding more spices/herbs
  10. Pour into an 8x6x2 oiled casserole dish, and bake in the toaster oven for 15 minutes
  11. Spread the cheese on top of that baked casserole & return it to the toaster oven for 10 mins
Serve with a side of vegetables, a salad, and a desert... enjoy... serves 4-6 depending on how you cut it...

Jan 7, 2012

DIY Ice Packs

Being a DIY kind of a hippie dude, I decided to see if there was any way to make my own ice packs. Why? Over the course of my life, I've played a lot of sports (soccer, basketball, diving team, volleyball), remain very active (camping, hunting, rock climbing, spelunking, tai chi, qi gong, roller derby ref), and have a son that plays soccer, futsal, and is taking boxing training. As you can imagine, we have used ice packs a LOT. And yes, I learned from my grandma that using a bag of frozen veggies (peas work best) but now that I don't keep any of them in my freezer, I wanted to find another way to have some on hand, yet reduce the amount of chemicals and toxins that might be in the store bought ones.

You Just Need A Few Simple Ingredients To Make Your Own Gel Packs
Image from Tipnut link
In searching the web, I came across one particular website that gave the best amount of information about making your own ice-packs with items you most likely already have. It was the Tipnut entry about Quick & Easy Homemade Ice Packs. I'm going to save you a little surfing time by putting the key suggestions here and offer some other tips I've discovered on other sites.


Reusable gel type:
Method #1
2 cups water
1/3 cup vodka (80 proof)
Food coloring (any color you like)
Ziploc Freezer Bag
  • Pour liquids into Ziploc freezer bag, add food coloring (you’ll know at a glance that it’s your ice pack and not something to consume) then freeze.
Method #2
1 cup rubbing alcohol
2 cups water
Ziploc Freezer Bag (1 quart size)
  • Pour liquids into freezer bag, remove air and seal bag. Place bag seal side down into another Ziploc freezer bag, remove air and seal that bag. Place in freezer and use (and reuse) as needed (nice and slushy!).
Method #3
Liquid Dish Detergent
Ziploc Freezer Bag
  • Squirt liquid dish detergent in a Ziploc bag until the bag is about 3/4 full, seal and then freeze.
Okay, now some tips that I've come across in all of the comments on the pages and in my research.
Before using any ice pack or bag of frozen veggies, wrap it in a towel. The intensity of the coldness can
    damage the skin or nerves near the surface of the skin (depending on where you are putting it)
Putting the filled Ziploc bag into a second one (turned seal side down) helps insure less "leaking"
When filling the bags, use the amounts suggested because as liquids freeze, it expands a little.
  Do not use a homemade ice pack in a lunchbox for kids in school. They aren't allowed to have alcohol there
  Pets need these sometimes too


Anyway...keep active...but be prepared to to handle the boo-boos. I'm trying Method #3 but am using a "snack size" Ziploc and laundry detergent, because sometimes I only need a little one...

Jan 4, 2012

Unstuffed Cabbage Soup

I can't say that I ever had stuffed cabbage rolls...if I did, I don't remember because my family never really used cabbage, except to make coleslaw, and we always had sauerkraut on New Years. But, I have heard a LOT of people talk about it, and they seemed to like it. So, when I came across a recipe on allrecipes.com, I decided to at least try it and make a pot full of what would taste like stuffed cabbage, but be a warm soup.

The recipe below was typed as I made it but I actually cut the amounts in half because I was making it for just me, like my grandmother always taught me, "recipes are nothing more than a good guideline...make it what you want, and with what you have..."
(cabbage boiled for 15 mins, patties about to be dropped in)

Unstuffed Cabbage
1/2 of a large head of cabbage
1 (12 oz) bottle chili sauce + 12 oz of water 
1 liter Schweppes Black Cherry ginger ale
1 lbs ground mild Italian sausage
Various herbs & spices (explained below)
1 egg

Salt and pepper to taste. Cut cabbage into 1-inch wide strips and put in a 5 quart stock pot or Dutch oven. Add ginger ale and chili sauce, cover, and bring to a boil. Cook 15 minutes.


Meanwhile, add Italian seasoning, Old Bay seasoning, and garlic pepper into meat. Amount depends on what you want it to taste like. Mix well with egg. Form into patties and add to the pot.

Simmer, covered 2 hours. Taste for seasoning and serve. Makes 8 servings.

It made the apartment smell FANTASTIC all afternoon while it simmered. I occasionally stirred it, and added some ground black pepper. And yes, I did use my instant thermometer to make sure that the patties reached 170F. So, overall, I liked it. I have enough of it left that I'll probably be eating it for a few days. A couple of neighbors caught the aroma when they were walking by and I had opened my door for a second, so they begged me to give them some of it.

I'm glad I used my Italian cooking background on seasoning this recipe, because I love the tastes...and I always keep grandma's quote in mind. So, I used what I had on hand. Hence the black cherry ginger ale, ground sausage, and herbs.

The only other thing that I think I'll do next time, is make them into small meatballs instead of patties. Though, the patties make a good sandwich if you use a slotted spoon to take them out of the pot, and wrap them in a tortilla, with a slice of muenster cheese....

Jan 3, 2012

Toska

A friend of mine recently posted on Facebook a word that expresses a very deep spiritual feeling and it made me stop instantly because I hadn't heard that word since I was about 14 or 15. Of course, as most of my posts point out, I was with my grandparents. I can actually remember the discussion I had with my grandfather about this particular word.

My grandfather (who was Greek) and I were tromping through the woods behind their house. They were VERY deep woods, but we were heading towards the powerline cut because both sides of the cut were completely covered with berry bushes, and it was time to go pick several bushels (I'll discuss that in another post) so we could make pies.

As we walked, he looked at me and said "you look troubled, what are you feeling?" I explained that "I just didn't sleep well last night. I don't know why. My mind just wouldn't stop. And now, I feel sad." He was quiet for a while and we journeyed farther into the woods. He was quiet, and didn't ask me any more questions. He knew that my mind was still whirling trying to figure it all out. It was processing what I was "feeling" and "what caused it," but it was getting nowhere. I was pretty much left alone to process the spiritual side of myself, and my grandfather was the kind of man that just let it step forward on it's own path. He was there for guidance, and teaching. But, when the emotions where on the overwhelming side, he could tell. And he could put it all into a perspective that I could embrace.

As the morning wore on, and I picked a seemingly ENDLESS amount of berries, the sun warmed my back. And I absorbed the energy of the heat. It warmed me from the inside and restored the stability that my spirit needed. Each handful of berries that I put into my basket reassured me that "by tonight, this will be delicious." So, my spirit was lifted.

I looked down the path to my grandfather, and asked him "why did I feel sad even if nothing happened?" He said, "There is only one word that explains it... toska." He explained it to me as "a feeling of sadness and pain, way down on the inside...but you don't know what has made you feel this way...your brain and your soul are just having a conversation about something that you feel and something you don't realize you know. It will pass when you find the positive moment of your path."

I have to admit, that at my age, that didn't make a lot of sense to me. But, it kinda did. By the time the journey into the woods ended, I was stabilized, and we had nearly 3 bushels of berries.

All these years later, when I read toska on that Facebook posting, it brought back that memory with my grandfather, but also made me look it up. Just to "define" it a little better. It is best explained by Vladimir Nabokov in the following quote:
"Toska - noun /ˈtō-skə/ - Russian word roughly translated as sadness, melancholia, lugubriousness.
"No single word in English renders all the shades of toska. At its deepest and most painful, it is a sensation of great spiritual anguish, often without any specific cause. At less morbid levels it is a dull ache of the soul, a longing with nothing to long for, a sick pining, a vague restlessness, mental throes, yearning. In particular cases it may be the desire for somebody of something specific, nostalgia, love-sickness. At the lowest level it grades into ennui, boredom."

 And...I'll just leave it at that...

Dec 30, 2011

Homemade "Hamburger Helper" Casserole

Hamburger Helper
Image via Wikipedia
I always liked easy casserole recipes yet liked the consistency and taste of Hamburger Helper. So, in an attempt to reduce cost, scale it for myself AND better the nutrition options, I made it my hobby for a month to create a recipe that met all of those things. I have achieved that, IMHO. I'll keep it simple as an entry so you don't have to scroll too much. But, I seriously encourage you to do this.

Ingredients:
  • 1 lbs. ground meat (beef or even Italian sausage)
  • 1 1/2 cups elbow macaroni
  • 1 can Campbell's Tomato soup
  • 4 oz. of a package of shredded cheese (your choice of flavor)
  • Italian seasoning
Directions:
  1. Boil the water, and make the macaroni according to the instructions on the box.
  2. Brown the ground meat of your choice at the same time.
  3. Preheat the toaster oven to 375 F and oil an 8x6x2 Pyrex casserole dish.
  4. While draining the macaroni in a colander, pour the tomato soup into the stockpot you used.
  5. Sprinkle as much Italian seasoning into the soup for the taste you want.
  6. Return the macaroni to the stockpot with soup.
  7. Drain the browned meat, and put it into the stockpot too.
  8. Stir well.
  9. Pour that mixture into the 8x6x2 Pyrex casserole dish and even it out.
  10. Place that in the toaster oven for 20 mins.
  11. Slide the dish out (using oven mitts) and cover it evenly with the shredded cheese.
  12. Noodles & browning
  13. Return it to the toaster oven, and bake for another 8 minutes.
You would have enough to serve at least 5 people with this, but that also means you have enough leftovers if it is just you. Yeah, it is actually very awesome, and I make it at least once per week. It is easy to make, and tastes great. You could use any other seasonings/herbs based on your choice, but this is AWESOME!
Finished casserole

Breakfast Sandwich

Egg rings
I bought these the other day, and after reading all of the comments, I do suggest that you dip them in olive oil before using them. Fortunately, I learned a lot of Italian cooking while growing up, and have a lot of it in my pantry.

BUT, my point of this entry is about how awesome these are if you use them properly. My son was with me last weekend, and usually eats Pop Tarts for breakfast, but as his father, I strove to provide him a better option, without having to run to McDonald's for a meal. I made it at home.

Breakfast sandwich
Because they are a new item in my kitchen, I poured a raw egg into one ring, and poured a scrambled egg into the other, just to see the difference. I then took each result, put it on an English muffin, with cheese and a home-made burger, and served it.

End result? We will occasionally have "breakfast for dinner."

I served it with a side of hash brown patties. Score one for me.

Dec 28, 2011

Night Driving

Driving at night in rain or snow storm really is challenging, to say the least. Not only does the weather diminish your ability to see in front of you, but so do the headlights of cars coming the other way. They are almost BLINDING as they reflect directly into your eyes. A couple of tips about driving at night can be found at Road & Travel Magazine and the NYS DMV driver's manual, but I'm sharing the best tips.
  • When another car is approaching, look to the right (by checking the passenger side mirror or looking at the line on the side of the road)
  • Dim your dashboard lights as low as possible
You are "supposed" to check all of your mirrors every few moments so you are aware of what is going on behind or beside you. Diverting your eyes to the right when a car is coming the other way, you save your eyes from reacting to the amount of light that is impacting them, so when you return them to the front, they don't have to "readjust."

Dimming your dashboard lights reduces the amount of light impacting your eyes. When driving, especially at twilight, you rely on your peripheral vision. The dashboard dials impact that. By dimming them, you can SEE them when you are checking the speedometer, clock, or radio station, but they won't distract your peripheral sight while you are actually looking at the road in front of you.

'77 VW Rabbit
I learned this trick from my grandfather decades ago when he let me drive his car (a '77 Volkswagen Rabbit). He shared this with me because he learned it by being a belly gunner on a B-17 Flying Fortress during World War II. They dimmed the lights on the plane (cockpit & belly gun controls) when they flew at night so they could see out of the windows better, achieve the mission that they were on, and spot the enemy faster. Hmm...that makes sense. Driving a car is not about being the first to cause an accident, but about being the first to spot a situation that you can AVOID.

B17 Flying Fortress
I learned a LOT from my grandfather about life in general, but I still adhere to the tip of dimming my dash lights and look forward to passing this advice on to my son when he starts driving too.

I wish that my Toyota Highlander had a belly gun... sometimes other drivers piss me off.